If you watch young children, you&#39ll immediately notice how honest they are.如果你留意小孩，你会立刻发现他们是多么的诚实。My friend Betsy from my section a few years after business school was pregnant with her second child.我的一个HBS小组里的朋友Betsy在毕业后几年怀上了第二个孩子。And her first child, Sam, was about five and he looked around and

Now ordinary people have voice, not just those of us lucky enough to go to HBS, but anyone with access to Facebook, to Twitter, to a mobile phone.现在普通人也可以获得话语权。不仅是那些能到HBS读书的幸运儿，而是任何能上Facebook，Twitter或者有手机的人。This is disrupting traditional power structures and leveling traditional hierarchy.这正在打破传统的权利

Why don&#39t you come in with a list of what you want to discuss.&quot把你想讨论的事列出来就行。But everyone ignored me and they kept doing their presentations meeting after meeting, month after month.但是所有人都无视我的要求，仍然在做PPT，就这样一个又一个会议，一个月又一个月，没有改变。So about two years in, I said, &quotOK, I hate rules but I have a r

When I was first at Facebook, a woman named Lori Goler, a 1997 graduate of HBS, was working in marketing at eBay and I knew her kind of socially.我刚到Facebook的时候，97届HBS的校友Lori Goler还在eBay做市场营销。我和认识了她并且知道善于交际。She called me and said, &quotI want to think about you know talk with you about coming to work

It&#39s an honor to be here today to address HBS&#39s distinguished faculty, proud parents, patient guests, and most importantly, the class of 2012.今天很荣幸来到这里为尊敬的哈佛商学院（HBS）的教授们，自豪的毕业生家长们和耐心的来宾们，尤其是为今年的毕业生们演讲。Today was supposed to be a day of unbridled celebration and I know that&#39s no longer true.今

As you graduate today, ask yourself, how will you lead. Will you use simple and clear language? Will you seek out honest feedback?在你们毕业的今天，问自己你将如何去领导，你会用简单明了的语言？你会追寻真实的反馈？When you get honesty feedback, will you react with anger or with gratitude?当你得到真实的反馈，你会愤怒还是感激？As we strive to be more authentic i

We need to start talking about how women underestimate their abilities compared to men and for women, but not men, success and likeability are negatively correlated.我们要讨论女性相比男性为什么会低估自己的能力。而且和男性不同，对于女性，成功和受欢迎程度是反向相关的。That means that as a woman is more successful in your workplaces, she will be less l

I am honored to be here today to address Dean Qian, the distinguished faculty of the Tsinghua School of Economics and Management, proud family members, supportive friends, and most importantly, the class of 2015. Unlike my boss, Mark Zuckerberg, I don&#39t speak Chinese. I apologize. But he did ask

Message number three:建议三：don&#39t leave before you leave.在你离开前别放弃。I think there&#39s a really deep irony我认为这是一个非常深刻的讽刺to the fact that actions women are taking --对于女性所采取行动而言--and I see this all the time --我一直目睹类似情况的发生--with the objective of staying in the workforce女性希望留在职场这个目标，actually lead to their

Now, at the outset, I want to be very clear现在首先，我想澄清that this speech comes with no judgments.这个演讲不带有任何评判。I don&#39t have the right answer.我也没有正确的答案；I don&#39t even have it for myself.甚至就我而言，我也没有完全的答案。I left San Francisco, where I live, on Monday,在周一，我离开我生活的加利福尼亚，and I was getting on the plane for th

If you test men and women,如果你测试男性和女性，and you ask them questions on totally objective criteria like GPAs,你问他们问题，按完全客观的标准平均成绩来算，men get it wrong slightly high,男性会错误的高估一些，and women get it wrong slightly low.女性则会错误地低估一些。Women do not negotiate for themselves in the workforce.女性在职场不会为自身利益去谈判。A study in th

I gave this talk at Facebook not so long ago在脸谱不久前我给to about 100 employees,大约100名员工做这个演讲。and a couple hours later, there was a young woman who works there几小时后，在脸谱工作的一个年轻女性sitting outside my little desk,坐到我小桌子旁边，and she wanted to talk to me.她想和我谈谈。I said, okay, and she sat down, and we talked.我说，好，她坐

So for any of us in this room today,今天在座的各位，let&#39s start out by admitting we&#39re lucky.我们先承认我们是幸运的。We don&#39t live in the world我们没有生活在our mothers lived in, our grandmothers lived in,我们母亲和我们祖母生活过的那个世界，where career choices for women were so limited.在那时女性的职业选择是非常有限的。And if you&#39re in this room t